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Q: I know that you’re a busy person, but would you mind if I gave you a call sometime? Mom is showing serious signs of cognitive impairment, and I am fumbling through this. She’s still in her house, and I don’t think she ought to be there. If you have any guidance to give, I would love to hear it.
A: Balancing the care of our aging parents with raising our children, not to mention managing our careers and households, is indeed an anxiety-fueled task. It's no wonder you're feeling overwhelmed.
First and foremost, I want you to know that you're not alone in this. The road you're navigating is tough and emotional, but there are ways to make it a bit more manageable. Here are some steps you can take.
1. Power of Attorney (POA): This should be one of your first steps. Obtaining a POA will allow you to make important decisions on behalf of your mom, especially as her cognitive abilities decline. It's crucial for managing her finances, health care, and legal matters.
2. Consider Hiring a Consultant: If it's within the realm of possibility, either from your budget or your parent's, a consultant can be an invaluable resource. When my mom began showing signs of dementia, I reached out to a consultant at the recommendation of Molly with Sunny Care Services, which is an awesome resource. The insights and guidance the consultant provided were game-changers. He emphasized that while our instinct might be to keep our loved ones at home for as long as possible, communities designed for their care can significantly enhance their quality of life. In these settings, individuals with cognitive impairments often appear to "improve" — not because their condition is reversing, but because they're receiving appropriate care, they're safer, and the social interaction is immensely beneficial.
3. Seek Support: Whether you become a full-time caregiver or not, the emotional and social support from those who understand your journey is critical. Look for caregiver support groups in your community or online. Sharing your experiences, venting your frustrations, and learning from others can provide comfort and practical advice during this challenging time.